Sanderika, You are right on about men being logical, however while we do not need all the emotional stuff, some is still good. Other than that, I pretty well agree with entire post. PMA Baby! Shock
I've never been one to suffocate my man with emotional stuff so I will keep it in mind that guys don't mind a touch of it here and there.......
It is refreshing to have a male point of view chiming in here.
Maybe you will give us your opinion more often.....
Gonna work to get my PMA back on track, I have lost my way for a few days....hittin' a rough patch of road.
Thanks again Shock,
Take care of yourself,
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
I am pretty new to everything, my D took a fast train to Dtown so I didn't get a lot of learning of the DB stuff before it was over. I will definitely try to give a guys point of view when possible.
Definitely gotta get that PMA back, or better yet SMA, (superior mental attitude)
Just remember, GAL back, work on you for you, not him. In the end of the "battle", all you need to remember is that regardless, you will be a better person. Shock
Thanks for another post. Hope you hang with us a while.
I'm working on it.....I really am.
I'm already the better person.
H is still so far out there it isn't funny (or maybe now it's pure hilarity). I think H is entering year 6 of MLC Land. It's a reality I have lived with for so long and am so tired of. I thought this year we were seeing the end if it. We had developed great communication and a very nice friendship, albeit this has been 4 years post bomb in the making. I just recently learned some information that makes me believe that H is no where near the end. My intuitions are telling me that I am not wrong.
I don't want to reiterate all here on Bonny's thread, I have been back posting on my own all the details, fears and my thoughts and feelings about it all.
The latest thoughts that there is another OW woman are way too much for me. BTW the original OW has never been cut out of the movie.
PMA is going to be a while in returning. Got lots to sort out.
Wouldn't mind if you popped over to my thread and offered your .02!!!
I'm sorry your D happened so quickly. I somehow feel it must be better than dragging it all out like mine has. I can't get the years back we've spent in limboland. H of course has been living it up and I have been holding down the fort. This way you can feel free to do whatevah you desire. Your still young enough....you have a world of options.
Thanks Shock, I really appreciate your input.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
Keep up the good PMA, Bonny. Detaching is sad and scary to me, but better than staying on the roller coaster. You can only take that for so long when you have no control over the choices. You can be sure that he is appreciating the space you are giving him, if nothing else.
Hope you have a great day at the seaside. I wanted to take my kids there this week but time just got away from us.
Well still not heard from the H s not much to report.
Still feeling positive though, had a great weekend out and about. Went to the pub for a quick drink with the kids and it occurred to me that my H would never be able to do that without organizing it days in advance. Which is sad, the kids are at the stage when they are leaving home and I’m going to enjoy them whilst there still here. My H has missed out on nearly two years of this more fool him. And for what a woman who’s less than half my equal with screwed up kids. Good luck to him I say!!
