Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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More follow up questions, TEGH;

(1) What kind of guys did you wife date or pair-up with with high-school while she was living under Daddy's rule? Was she a conformist who only dated nice boys who met with Daddy's approval? (you alluded to this when you mentioned her saying "Go as my father" to potential suitors) Or was she rebellious and sneaking out at night in order to hang out with the "bad boys" in school? In general, she a "Daddy's good girl," an "uppity prom-queen," or a "wild, party-girl,"?

I'm guessing a bit here, but she tended more to the wild side with some of the wilder, good-looking "bad boys" in high school. I mean, I've heard how good looking her first husband looked (this from her, her younger sister and her mother, I guess that makes me what? As an interesting aside, I found my physical from just before we got married. Although I was about 10 pounds heavier than I would have liked to have been when we got married, I'm only 19 pounds heavier than I was 17 years ago). The reason she told these "dirty old men" to ask her father was because she knew that if his friends came to him and asked him if they could go experience some of their fantasies with his daughter, he'd probably deck them on the spot.

(2) What kind of man does your wife find attractive and sexy now? What male movie stars or genres? Characters in books? Men on the street or at work? Do you know?

Italian police officers (or just about any police officer) in shorts...riding a bicycle

This is a lousy position to be in as the man in the relationship, especially when he *didn't* settle and she does turn *him* on. There are, however, ways to work around this and get her attention, sexually.

I'm not interested in a quid pro quo nor, frankly, am I interested in her changing just because I complained about it and she's just going through the motions. If it's not been important to her for all these years, then why should it be important now? Because there is some threat to her sense of security?