LR Welcome, sorry you are here but it is a good place to be.

I know it's tough after being with someone for so long,thinking you know them and then...you don't.for now focus on you keep busy.don't try to figure him out it will just eat you alive and that is not healthy.come here when you need to vent it absolutely helps.and most of all Patience.

Good Luck
God Bless

H 49
W 42
S 19
S 14
S 12
S 8
D 6
M 19
Bomb dropped 2/09
Separated 5/09
still hopeful, praying