They may be right but I would suggest to you na danyone else going through this to stop soaking in it. When the feelings are too strong try to distract yourself. Eventually they will dissipate.
Even now k, when a certain piece of information or betrayal overcomes me I will act out the scenario or argument in my head where I mentally call W all the names under the sun, then I let it go or just file it back in that place in my head.
W is being good to me cos she knows she's done wrong in the past, but she doesn't want to own up or face up to it. I've been through what you are going through now, linking dates to events, wondering why our spouce didn't just f**k off instead of putting us through the mill. We both may never know why. But time is our friend, cos as time goes by we will put less importance or significance on these events.
