Good afternoon K, I can't sleep...hardly slept...getting ready for golf....have no legs...LOL. I think I will cart it today.
The questions or rather answers you seek will probably never sufffice. You are not even sure that he will tell the truth and I am not even sure they know why they do certain things. I read Lan's post and I think he is right about keeping thoughts neatly placed somewhere. We can not forget the betrayal whether piecing or seperated or divorced. We just need to deal with it and move on. I also read posters who are undoubtedly much more knowledgeable than me say that you need to go through stages of anger etc. They may be right but I would suggest to you na danyone else going through this to stop soaking in it. When the feelings are too strong try to distract yourself. Eventually they will dissipate. NGF said something tonight as we were watching TV prior to hitting the sack (which we hardly did / but I digress). We were at a 50th wedding anniversay (just 25 people) in a restaurant... She said I am sorry to say this but I was watching you tonight, what kind of an idiot let's a guy like you get away? Well the reason I mnetion this is not to brag or toot my own horn but I think you and others are in the same boat. You probably do not believe this right now but there are people out there that appreciate you for who you are. With all our faults.....so, in conclusion; you deserve better than what you got the last 3 years or so. Try to stop dwelling on the past...whether their is reconcilliation or a clean breakup in the stars, the quicker you get out of the past the better in my opinion.