For whatever reason, don't like it. And I think the things they say about why they don't want it are mainly misleading.
I know you excluded me but I kind of take issue with your comment. I was really turned off and had a practically non-existent sex drive (talking about regular sex here). I was not misleading anyone, I did not understand it myself. I was trying to figure it out.
But, sex with H after he left was pretty incredible...I attribute that to the stark change in our dynamic and H at least becoming an autonomous man...and boy was I surprised that I wasn't frigid after all!
A sexless marriage is not always doomed to remain sexless and I believe in the possibilities.
If so many women don't want to have sex (apparently not with their husbands but perhaps other fellas), maybe this is not an issue of women misleading and making up excuses but a common dynamic that develops in marriages.
You don't recommit to a non-sexual marriage any more than you would recommit to an abusive marriage...you redefine the relationship and you change the dynamic so that more of each partner's needs are met. At least that is what I envision as the goal.
