How do you wait this out?

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, Golfgirl.

I understand what you are going through. I was the worlds worst at detaching.......and the absolute queen of the "backslide". I even got a tattoo of the chinese konji symbol for "patience"!!

Anyway, I believe that it's most important to just try to remember to be kind to yourself. You will get there when you get there. Fake it til you make is a good adage, but even if you can't do that, don't beat yourself up. The fact is that there are no wrong answers. You could be a "DB guru" and still end up D'd.

I'm sure you've heard it before but DB really isn't about saving your M, but about saving you. By doing these techniques you can avoid some pain. That's it. Yes, it's also the best chance you have at saving your M, but that's a by product really.

Another way I sometimes look at it is that we are going through our own MLC of sorts. How could we not be when we have lost something that we trusted so deeply? So, we too will go through the cycling, and the depression, and denial, and all those stages we have read about.......although hopefully we won't lose sight of what's really important in life (whatever that is for each of us) because we are not stark raving nuts as our WAS's obviously are for walking away from such remarkably wonderful people as ourselves!!!

Anyway......hang in there!

(((((hugs)))))