Unfortunately, my W is not moving out of the house anytime soon of her own accord- our first scheduled mandatory mediation isn't until the end of next month. So in the meantime, I'm going to have to manage my W and her behavior as best I can while avoiding doing anything detrimental that could be twisted and potentially used against me. I just ordered "Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson on Amazon, it should be here by next week. I'm hoping to get some good ideas on establishing effective boundaries with my W from it. Do you have any suggestions regarding other books/resources I could check out that touch on the boundaries subject?
Who is sleeping the master bedroom right now?
The wrong answer will be "my wife is".
Move back into the master bedroom if you currently sleep on the couch, basement or other room.
Move her stuff out of the room, put it in boxes, if she throws a fit and starts arguing with you, instead of rewarding her crap behavior with an argument and a heated exchange of words, you tell her that I'm not rewarding your behavior or your affair with the OM anymore and then you turn your back on her and walk away and that's it. No more words, you let her get angry, you let her say whatever she wants, you turn your back and you IGNORE her. This will make her angry and when it does, enjoy the fact that this is proof that you are taking back control of the relationship.
DO THIS TODAY if you are not sleeping in the master bedroom.
