By the way, I agree very much with a point Michele made in a magazine article I saw on the web the other day. She had a list of myths, one being that if a couple manages to restore emotional closeness in their marriage, the wife's sexual desire for her husband will be restored. Yes, it's sometimes true, maybe even often true. But it is NOT always true.
For some women, like my wife, you can have emotional closeness until the cows come home, and you still get zip in the sex department, with no exceptions for years and years.
In fact, as Michele points out in that article, the emotional closeness just becomes a close brother-sister thing for the woman. Better yet if you remain somewhat apart emotionally, with a sexually charged dynamic going between you instead. I've tried that too, with zero results so far.
