But Friend -- not FFF, but Studly Paragon of He-Manliness (11 on the Charles Atlas Scale of Absolute Manitude) Friend -- asked a real puzzler one day.
"SP, my man," said he, whilst bench-pressing an imported automobile, "If you choose on the basis of Themselves and not of you, what happens when Themselves leave the nest? If you're not True to yourself, are you really modeling what you want for them? Maybe you are; maybe you aren't -- spot me here, will you, I want to add a Chevy to this -- but it seems to me to be something worth considering."
And he was right. It is worth considering.
FWIW...this is probably the same kind of thing Mrs. SP's enabling BFFs said to her pre-bomb.
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