"If you choose on the basis of Themselves and not of you, what happens when Themselves leave the nest? If you're not True to yourself, are you really modeling what you want for them?"
That sounds ok until you apply it to something like, both parents choosing to work minimum wage and follow their Hollywood dreams of stardom to the considerable physical and scholastic detriment of their kidlets because they want to model "being true to themselves".
The way I see it (considering you have no religious scruples trapping you in your m), your wife's status as the mother of your children is a substantial weight on the one side of the scale. Not the whole scale.
And I hereby recuse myself from further comment on the history of your marriage. It's clearly impossible to comment meaningfully without access to years of context. Smack my nose with a rolled-up newspaper if I do it again (wink).
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
