Nope. I think this is a message he may want to give to her outside an actual sexual situation. In a sexual situation, I think he should go with the less direct approach to communicate that the issue will not be going away.
Quote: But he IS hurt, and do you think that he should have to minimize or ignore his feelings?
I've found that I get closer to my goal more often by putting my feelings to the side for the moment, yes, sometimes even minimizing them. Then I focus on the other person, their feelings, and their needs. My turn comes in another conversation OR I find that addressing their feelings and dealing with their needs results in a change in the behavior that is causing me problems. Then those feelings of mine don't exist anymore. There's more than one way to skin a cat.
It depends on what the primary goal is: Getting the behavior to change or letting the other person know s/he caused me pain. It's easy to get distracted by the second one. But, for a variety of reasons, the second one can sometimes interfere with the first.
Gotta evaluate each situation and figure out if expressing the feelings is going to help or hurt.
