She could have said, an hour before, "Hey, guy, when we go upstairs and you start working your mojo, do you think you could XYZ? I've been thinking that would be hot."
I mean, she could have made -- had she cared? -- changing-up the bed-cycle part of the bed-cycle, yeah? Part of the fun?
Oh, for goodness sake, did you plan your encounters too? She did not know what the hell would make it work...it just wasn't working...trust me on that.
Let me Xplain...W is not attracted to H (for whatever reasons that may or not be his "fault")...obligatory encounter begins. W prays to the Gods of Orgasms for some catharsis and plunges in only to feel...not a whole lot...W feels broken, despondent, frustrated, angry (this has to be something he is doing wrong, dammit)...W subsequently wonders, is it him or is it me, Signore shows up and W gets that tingly feeling...hmmm...maybe W is not broken, maybe it was H...
I only got to the tingly part and than got about 200,000,000 miles away from whoever elicited the tingly feeling but I wondered, is my equipment broken or could it be my partner. And, I did have the presence of mind to recognize the emotional elements of our dynamic that were destroying bedroom life (still couldn't quite get through to H).
Anyhoo, EVERYTHING else aside...NO BJs?????? Ever???? Even I, the queen of "not tonight I have a headache" would dole those out (well and relatively frequently I might add)...he was frustrated that I wouldn't swallow anymore (spoiled rotten I'd say after reading your post).
