Which is worse? Voicing it like that, sans tact? Or not voicing it at all based on the assumption that (a) his ego wouldn't survive it or (b) he didn't care enough to try to change things up or (c) didn't have the intelligence, creativity, and mad man skillz to succeed even he he did try?
Again, it was what it was. Yes, @Kett, you're absolutely right. In LTRs we all feel this way, and one would hope that the R would be robust enough that it could be discussed.
But, and here I sympathize (with myself?) with Kimmie Lee's POV, she might have brought it up before we were naked and I was a'doing my thang. She could have said, an hour before, "Hey, guy, when we go upstairs and you start working your mojo, do you think you could XYZ? I've been thinking that would be hot."
I mean, she could have made -- had she cared? -- changing-up the bed-cycle part of the bed-cycle, yeah? Part of the fun?
