Here is a new road bump. My folks have been close to w. When this started happening, they stayed close, trying to help out in any way they could. When things started getting really bad and w started getting kinda pissy, they distanced themselves a little bit. Mom didn't call as much, and weren't easily available to babysit for our kids when she wanted to go out with her friends and I was working late or out myself. Tonight, my folks invited us to dinner. W said no quite quickly. I didn't ask why. Later when me and the boys were about to leave for my folks', she said she knew my folks were avoiding her. I said they always tell me they miss her. So this is a strike against me in W's mind. I left after saying that, and I am sure she will be out when I get home. Probably better that she isn't.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Let it go. It is what it is. She made her choice. Maybe next time she will make a different choice. I have a SIL who can't seem to come to any family events. It's not the end of the world. In fact, for our family events, it's better.
I know, I just wish she didn't use this against me. I have tried to tell her in the past that I love her enough to ignore somethings my parents said or did.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I think she took me off her friends list on facebook.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Is asking her why she removed me from facebook now considered pursuing?
Last edited by Orich; 08/29/0911:34 PM.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I'm trying to think what happened recently that made me an enemy all of a sudden. We were at least cordial for a while. Now she is avoiding me more than usual, looking for things I am doing wrong, and now removing me and my family from facebook. She is still going to Retrouvaille, but I am suspect of her motivation, she is angry. The the last time she brought it up she was annoyed that she didn't know the exact times and she couldn't set up babysitting, even though I had already had it covered. Oddly, today we were all home alone, and she did speak normal to me until the dinner at my parents' incident. WTH? I am trying to let it all roll off my back, and I do realize that I am handling it better than I thought I would.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
My kids unfriend me all the time. I do complain about it, but it doesn't always get me back in. Of course, it could be a facebook glitch. They are not above having problems. You say she is mad at your family. Why is she mad at your family? Is it because they care about you? It's only 2 weeks now. I'd let it ride. I do think she will feel differently about a lot of stuff after Retrouvaille. And how much does she really reveal on facebook? You can probably live without it for a couple of weeks.
I don't care about facebook, I rarely even go on it. It's just weird that she suddenly now removed me and my family. She is upset that my folks are in her mind avoiding her, so I can understand her removing them. But why me? I can only assume something happened in her mind, and I wonder what it is. She also didn't have her rings on tonight, and I didn't see them on the ring holder she usually keeps them on when she removes them for something. They weren't on her nightstand either. So you see, it appears something happened. The stats quo no longer exists. Something happened.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I will let it ride till retro. That has been my mantra for a little while. But I can't help but wonder if she is going into this differently than before. I think she did have a glimmer and wanted to see if she could cultivate it and make it grow again. Now I can't help but think she is going in now thinking it is just a last effort so she could say she tried everything. I am not showing any different attitude to her right now, but I feel like I have been hit by a 1-2 punch.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
She wore her rings to Mass this morning. She is going to the movies laterbwith her sister. We'll see if she wears them then.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
