She asked at one point, "what if I want to date?" That question went largely unresolved. Kind of shook me.
Well, I think that's something you have to decide. I don't think it's ok for married people to date esp. when they have kids. If you feel that way, then I think you should not tell her dating is ok. Don't let the threat of D make you agree to something that you're not ok with. What I'm thinking is if you don't want dating while married, don't bring it up again, but if she does, then say that's an issue to deal with in MC and deal with it there.
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I have the same questions about buying a condo, I don't know if this is a viable plan. Maybe we can rent something, that might be a better idea. This is kind of unfolding real-time.
I don't know that condos are a good investment, and I don't think so for the next couple years at least. If you wanted to sell in the case of a D that might be impossible. My other concern is that you buy a property, it seems like it's easier to separate and D than renting one. Kind of makes the separation more permanent. I mean I would think you wouldn't want to continue in a marriage with separate houses long-term, but just short-term. I don't think buying is recommended for the short-term and esp. not in today's market.
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What do you think about this rotation idea? THe idea that we switch off time in the house / other place, and that the kids stay in the house? Seemed crazy to me at first, but now it seems workable.
I think it's a bad idea. You shouldn't have to leave your house/children b/c your W wants space. If she wants space, then she should get an apt. or whatever. Her choice and decision, then she should have consequences for them not you.
