Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I don't think that's it. I don't think it's hit yet. But, I know patience!
I'm having a good weekend, yesterday was an off Friday, I got my car back (yippee!), and went golfing. The key lime tree is coming back after its period of drought, and some of the fruit even survived. It's even got a few new flowers. My energy is up, and I am feeling good! I'm cleaning my room today, and I'm feeling good about that, too! I think I may be losing my mind......
The best part about making key lime pie for you all is that I get to eat it!
So, here's an interesting story....
To-be-ex-w called this morning, and we talked a bit about S11 and S19. S11 might be hopping from 6th to 7th grade, W was hoping to talk to the principal today (didn't happen). So she wanted to talk about that. And she is worried about S19 (worried may be strong) so we talked about him a little.
Then I mentioned to her that I was going to be out Friday night (I have the kids Saturday), and that I had given the kids permission to stay over at friends' houses Friday night if they wanted to. (They probably do this every other weekend, so it isn't anything unusual.) I asked her if they could stay at her house Friday night if they didn't stay at friends. She had no trouble with that. Then came this....
W: What are you doing? Jeff: Going out... W: With friends? J: Yes. W: A female friend? J: Yes. W: GOOD! I'm glad! J: You are? W: Yes! I want you to be happy! And I think you'll be happier in a couple!
She went on a bit more... saying that she would expect her parents to accept someone I had a relationship with. And that there might be snippy bits, but it was all good.
Then, after work, I stopped by her house to set up their printer. While I was working on it, she said, "I need to apologize to you, and you are going to have to deal with it. I told S11 that you were going on a date Friday night." That I did not expect! I was actually kind of glad tbxw knew I was dating, I'd rather she know about it like that than hear about something from a friend who saw me somewhere. Not likely, but it could happen. But I really would have been happier if the "little" guys didn't know just yet.
Then S14 got home from football practice, I had to tell him, since there was no way S11 wasn't going to. So now they both know.
S14 had left his guitar music book at my house this weekend, so after I finished with the printer I went to get it, and dropped it off with tbxw who was picking S11 up from soccer. I got there just as practice was ending, S11 saw me, charged over, gave me a hug, and said, "Congratulations, Dad!" He's excited about it!
I am a bit worried about the boys thinking it's ok to date when you are married. I know, I don't feel married, and I am not going to be married much longer, and tbx clearly doesn't feel that way. But, the facts are the facts. I'm debating with myself about whether to say any more about it, or not. I have to think about that a bit, at least!
Last edited by Virtually_Handsome; 09/01/0905:44 AM.
Jeff, you are married? Sheessh (I love this), I didnt know!!!!
Not trying to be a smart @ss here, but dear Jeff, you are NOT married, for a long time now. And lets say we fast forward 120 days and you get a paper in your hands, would you put it up on your wall telling your kids you got the official divorce? Would you make a fuss over it with them?
What I mean is that the legal part of the process IMHO, shouldnt be bothering you right now. You guys have separate houses, your lives are separated, the kids seem to adjust well.
The only part I would be a little worried about is that SHE told them, and she needs to be clear that's none of her business and that maybe, just maybe, again IMHO, its a little too soon for the kids to hear about their dad's dates. Especially if it's not something serious yet?
