Thank you for the response, I really appreciate your support and the responses. It really helps.
Yeah, positive things, I feel like I've dodged a bullet, or maybe am dodging. Still need to get her to follow through on Monday, but she shook on it
She asked at one point, "what if I want to date?" That question went largely unresolved. Kind of shook me.
I have the same questions about buying a condo, I don't know if this is a viable plan. Maybe we can rent something, that might be a better idea. This is kind of unfolding real-time.
W was looking at it as in investment, but cripes, if we're going to pick up a condo that's been on the market 250 days, would we be able to sell it later? Presumably the market will improve. I don't know. But it's a plan, and I think we can adapt where needed.
We discovered these places have a monthly fee / dues / whatever - I've never owned a condo, but the way I understand it you've got to pay for the overall upkeep of the building. Yeah, well - we'll see what we come to. Just out of the gate on this one.
The Retrouvaille thing has been suggested, and it occured to me over the past 18 hours now, that his might be something to look into. My wife has a pretty negative view of anything associated with religion right now, so I need to be careful with this - but I have it in my back pocket.
What do you think about this rotation idea? THe idea that we switch off time in the house / other place, and that the kids stay in the house? Seemed crazy to me at first, but now it seems workable.
I think it's a really good idea to give her space - time to experience being without me. That way we can both regroup - she can stop her "caretaker" behaviors, I can learn to be alone... funny, I've always been very good at being alone, as long as I've known she's there. I'm a solitary guy, it's true - and as soon as this all happens I fall apart. Ironic.
She went out with a friend last night and got home really late - funny, I had fallen asleep in a chair, and she got me up and got me to bed (yeah, I'd taken pills to sleep, was out of it). She's still in bed now.
Still having trouble getting up, but made myself get out of bed and jump rope - so for once didn't lay in the bottom of the shower. Trying to find strategies to beet the blues. I've got to be less distracted at work too. I didn't even go back yesterday... Need to get it together. yes, I probably sound like a broken record. But, yeah, had to take a damn xanex this morning, when I started wondering, is the plan workable??
