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[RedSoxFan]

W sent this email to me in response to my requesting to have the kids stay with me while she went to the memorial and her anger that she didn't agree to 100% eliminate exposure of kids to him:

"Yes I understand. My concern is that i feel like we so often walk away with completely different understanding of our conversations. It's very frustrating because I really try to be honest and direct to avoid miscommunications."

and I responded:

"Honestly, I don’t feel like there was any miscommunication here. You said:

“I want to run this by you to see if you are okay with that. The kids will be safe and will not be exposed to anything they should not be exposed. If you object to them going to the XXXX outing and the XXXX portion then can they stay with you?”

and I took the second choice. I believe it is the right thing to do.

From my perspective I feel very clear about our entire situation.

I’ve made my feelings and intentions known to you. I love you, I have faith in myself, you as a person and our ability to have a happy life together. I want to save our marriage and keep our family together forever.

You have to decide what’s best for you. Your decisions are your own. I do not want to control or manipulate you. I have no business in your decision making process.

I have to take care of myself and continue moving forward in life. I have people who depend on me and a lot of life left to live. I intend to make the very best of it!

The rest is in bigger hands than mine

me"

Was that response OK? Am I missing anything in what she is saying? My position is that kids shouldn't be exposed to OM. She agreed to minimize exposure and eliminate overnights. There isn't any miscommunication, we jsut don't agree.