I understand that your sitch is different, but I think I know myself well enough to know that if it had been in plain (i.e., Smiley's Person-comprehensible) English, we would have done something about it.
You knew something was very wrong and didn't know what to do about it, that was my point.
A perfect example is W saying foreplay was boring. It was clearly stated. So what? Who knew how to fix it? Neither of you.
