I'm glad you hired a good L. That L must be a scumbag, b/c to file stuff the client doesn't want and not copy her on that kind of stuff-sounds like the guy should be reported to the Bar.
Overall it sounds great. For her to agree to cancel or at least postpone the D, makes me think that she's not having an EA/PA. From what I've seen here, if a WAS isn't willing to work on the marriage or try counseling they're usually in a PA. Esp. when kids are involved.
Have you also considered Retroville (prob. spelled wrong). I've heard great things about it, but haven't personally gone, so don't know about that. And you need to get a pro-marriage DB-type MC. Not like your last one!!!
The only thing I would be concerned about is looking into buying real estate for your W? What if she does decide to go ahead and D in 6 months or a year? Is that a good financial decision? Would you still be happy with that purchase if you D in a year or 2?
I do think that D is expensive in itself, so almost any $$$ you spend should be less, but still. Plus condos may be cheaper than rent, but you'll have to make repairs, pay property taxes, and homeowner's insurance, so it may not be that much cheaper if at all.
