Hi luvhubby. The fact that you said "my first thought would be oh come off it, lets just do it and the more we do, the easier it gets and the problem is solved, simple as that" makes me think that this may not be a male/female issue as much as it is a high desire/low desire issue. Maybe the book should be "High desire spouses are from Mars, low desire spouses are from Venus.
Quote: how about just telling your W. "I've tried really, really hard to try and solve this area in our M but nothing that I've been doing seems to be working. Obviously I am doing the wrong things. I can't do this on my own. I need your help. Please tell me VERY SPECIFIALLY what you need from me in order to let go of your resentment. I know that when we get into the sex argument, I turn into a monster and I don't want that monster to cause you to have anxiety attacks, so please lets work on this together because I think its beggining to seep into other areas of our M."
Actually, what you've suggested is exactly what I was trying to do on Friday, except that I didn't know about the resentment and anxiety attacks at the time. Now that I have a little more information, I'll definitely use it to try and hone in on solving the problem.
