Thanks, guys. Kimmie, I actually think it might be the loving thing, too.
I found an old sermon from my pastor in K.C. yesterday. Ironically, he gave it shortly after I found out Dan was having an A, about 18 months ago. Listened to it online. It is called "Make love AND war". Says that love will go to war for those who need it.
Basically it says people equate Christian=nice and that doing something confrontational is oft considered 'unchristian'. In fact if you love someone, you go to any length to see them redeemed. In this case, continuing to stand by Dan and wait it out does nothing for him or for me. Just allows him to wallow where he is while hurting me at the same time. So pushing this forward forces him to feel the ramifications of his actions. If he loses the 401k, the cows, the tractor, whatever, so be it. His consequences for his actions.
Nathan called him last night to ask about going to the air show today, it was never confirmed. Dan called back and I answered the phone. Of course he was all polite and friendly and jokey. I passed the phone back over to the kids. Nothing short of radical change will alter the course now.
