Yeah, I sense we are in pretty similar stages too. My H has not begun to talk to me about anything serious since he has been processing. He talks out loud when concentrating, thats how I know he is currently confused, he muttered it under his breath. I have recently been pulled up for never EVER EVER picking a good movie from the movie shop the entire time we have been together, and that TWO items had dates expired in the fridge (such crimes, but such time devoted to them!).
I suspect together we are putting the process in place for the more serious discussions that will hopefully start to come up. Him starting R talks seems to be one of the key indications that the home strech is in sight? Have you guys started any of these talks? The most I have got is that "we don't talk anymore". I have been leaving the ball in his court, as if I try to up the frequency of light txts or something similar, it does not seem well recieved. All needs to continue at his pace.
Its funny, its not really been up until now that I have felt like discussing anything major. I now feel able to do so. I have noticed that I am able to influence H mood easier and easier through keeping happy and pleasant during his digressions. My awareness makes it easier for us to have space when needed I think.
Oh Mindfull!
Yeah toddlers doing well. They are more confused by this stage than any other as one hour their daddy is really into them, and the next he is like an off station radio, not on their wavelength and they don'y know why. I have tried to use the guy on the Life is Beautiful movie from a few years back as a role model during this process. That Jewish guy who managed to keep his small son unaware he was in a concentration camp by showing him the beauty in life each day? He is my parent role model!!!
