For my W, she had an A with her boss who pretty much validated everything she did. She was also at a risk of losing her job, so his attention was extremely important to her.
Like yourself, I had to figure all this out on my own. So I figure that with the Words of Affirmation, I can try to give my W what her boss did. But I'm alot further along this route than you are.
Your H may be in a MLC, but you're not going to know for sure.
Just keep on taking care of yourself. Read as much as you can about MLC if you want. That helped me.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.