I still say - that as a woman, after being so serious at home - marriage, jobs, child - there is a time when I felt I had missed out - it doesn't have to coincide with "midlife" at all - just a reaction to being so duty prone. Needing to get out and feel free from family responsibilities. Especially as a mom. It's such a constantly one way giving job. I'm just trying to reassure you when you get overwhelmed with fear, as I often do. It does no good to imagine what isn't proven. Also, if it doesn't get a reaction out of you when she's dressing up to go out so much, it may lose it's appeal.

She just may need to feel like someone other than Wife or Mother or Worker. That's all I'm saying. But I know how much it hurts and tears you up inside. I've been there. Letting go and trusting is the best way I know how to survive.

also, how do you pray? What do you ask for? I've never been religious, but heck, whatever works!


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship