Oh Oz - can I just say that your H is just showing a classic sign of MLC - they are totally forgetful and nothing that we tell them is retained.
I know that it makes you want to scream but as Cas says, do it here and be calm in front of him.
I'm sure that you are hurting so much right now that to reach in and wrench out your heart would be far less painful. Please maintain your dignity at this time even though I know it must already feel in tatters - as you say, you have the kids to help you and they WILL see you through this.
Try to post, when you can and know that we are here waiting.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I want to hit him over the head and tell what a complete and utter selfish, self centred as@@#((*e he is.
I cannot believe how cold hearted someone can be, it just amazes me.
No Cas I don't have to be completely out today, but all the heavy stuff has to go on the truck today with the boxes. Other stuff can be done over the weekend.
I just can't believe he is is leaving me with all this to do myself and then he will just waltz in the door tonight acting like some big shot, makes you sick.
Sorry had to get that out or I would have said it to his face and that wouldn't be good for anyone.
Sorry more venting. You know he didn't even lift a finger to help with the packing last night.
He has just walked out the door for work, carrying his change of clothes to go to the pub after work with the boys. Gives me a kiss and hug and says see you tonight!!!
Is this more testing on the part of his sick mind to see if I finally get nasty with him or crack under the pressure.
Here's the simple solution...don't pack his things. Any of them. Let him deal with the consequences.
If he accuses you of being angry that he wasn't there, just tell him "not at all, I just didn't know what you wanted to take" then go off on your own merry way.
Let him pack his own dirty laundry.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh nice - I like that advice from Stuck - especially the last sentence!!
Oz - this explosion had to come - you have been too calm in lots of ways - too patient and too accommodating, in my humble opinion! Perhaps a bit of anger is what you need now to get you on to that next step. Vent girl ... you go for it. I know that I have been doing and, as we know, this is a safe and allowing environment in which to do it. Even if people don't read it, at least you are letting it out ... writing things down is therapeutic, we know that, so get those fingers dancing all over the keyboard!!
I am sure that S has arrived by now and that has taken some pressure off - just seeing loved ones de-escalates things mostly. He will take your hand and help you ... he knows you best and he will throw a loving mantle around you - just let him do what he can do to help. Don't be the mum - let his maturity shine through and allow him to do what he can. You will be helping him to feel better about things, as well as getting some help for yourself.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Hi Oz .. half one in the afternoon with you now and still thinking about you. I've had a stern talk from Gucci Loafer this morning (see my posts) and it's got me to thinking.
I'm not the religious type that many on the board seem to be but that doesn't mean that I don't 'hedge my bets' from time to timeespecially when I really can't take any more (as I think many of us do)!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Oz - checking in for the last time today as I am now logging out. I have sat and pondered here all day and now's the time to shut down for a while and let all the info absorb.
I couldn't go without wondering if you are going to the footy party tonight and how the day has been for you? Missed you today but really hope that you have been able to keep your calm and maintain your responses and repose, as you know a good DB'er should!
Look forward to catching you tomorrow, if you are able.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
