Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

Whew! Where do I begin?

My H of almost 11 years appears to be making a break of sorts. Sorry if this all gets jumbled, really long story, but here goes...

We met 20 years ago in college, hit it off right away but I was in a place where I liked flirting and hanging out with lots of guys. He was just another cute guy at first. About 3 weeks in, I had a party at my apt., got drunk, and spent the night in my bed with my roommate's new boyfriend (she was out of town at the time). Fast forward about 4 days...my now H and I spent the entire night up talking and he said something that changed my life. The subject of sex came up and he said, "That's not what I want from you." At that moment, I was hooked. To that point, we had just kissed and talked. On that day, I knew this was the man for me, though only 19 at the time. We consummated the relationship soon thereafter but he had his suspicions about the OM and asked if something had happened between us. I lied and told him no. Over the years, from time to time, he would bring it back up again and I continued the lie. In my mind, it happened before I loved him and I knew it would end our relationship, as he became friendly with the OM after this.

At one point, 8 years in to our relationship, he told me that now was the time to tell him if something had happened. I started to tell him and when I admitted to even kissing the OM, now H lost it. TOld me he had placed me on such a pedestal, etc. So I stopped the story and said that was all that happened. next post