Hey Sooner, sorry to see you are still having no luck. I think it was back in May or so when I quit posting here. I haven't had much luck either. For a while after the marriage counselling the frequency got up to about 3-5 times a month. It slowly tapered down to nill. I bought her a $30,000 SUV and we had sex about 3 times that week. Its been almost 2 months of nothing since. I don't dwell on it much. I don't really feel like I love her much anymore though. I don't even try to initiate sex, conversation or anything else anymore. I spend my energies doing things that may actually make a difference like taking care of our kids or helping run a sports league. The marriage is pretty hopeless to me. But, like you, I've got the kids to think about so I haven't left for greener pastures. Maybe something will change someday. I can't decide wether its lack of sex that is ruining our marriage or if the marriage sucks that leads to a lack of sex. Chicken and the egg I guess. Even beyond the sex thing, I am an extremely proactive person and my wife isn't. I don't even think she understands the concept. So when things got really bad with us last Feb/March, I busted my butt to try to make things better and she did virtually nothing. So, I quit trying. We basically just take turns taking care of the kids and go through the motions with the rest of it. I take Benadryl at night which puts me to sleep (her snoring keeps me awake if I don't) and shuts off the sex drive.
Sorry to come back and post such a downer. I have been praying every night that God will keep our marriage together long enough for us to become close again. I'll remember to add you and your wife to my prayers too. That's the best I can do for you.
FredD
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
