I know. My W will be moving out in just about 3 weeks. I really never thought this would happen. Always thought something would change at the last minute and we would piece things back together. I guess until she actually walks out the door I still will feel that way. But once the door closes, it closes for me.
I have not followed your story as long as many others on this board, but from what I have seen so far, you have gone so far above and beyond what anyone else would do in trying to save this marriage. However at some point, and it seems to me you've reached it, enough is enough. Maybe the miracle is that your action of filing and making the move forward will finally jolt a serious sense of change in Dan. One that is not superficial and momentary, but deep and lasting. Then you will be faced with the decision of is it enough for you to want to go back. All difficult decisions, but the life on the other side of these actions will be so much better for you than the one you are in now.
