Orich, I don't usually make it a habit to copy something I've written to another poster, but since you are having the same detachment problem one of the other men here on the board is having.....I hope you will forgive me for being lazy this time and allow me to copy what I sent to him about an example of detaching.

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Have you seen movies where a man would be walking briskly through a huge office area and speaking to everyone he'd pass? He has a very upbeat attitude with a big smile on his face. Have you noticed that he does not seem to slow down or look back to see if any of those people in the office even spoke back to him? That is how you must be with your W. If you hesitate to speak first or if you watch her to see if she is going to respond to you.....then you are letting her control the situation. Be like that man walking through the office and you be the one in control of your own mood, don't let her set it for you. This man does what he does b/c he is a great guy and everyone in that office sees him as being friendly and upbeat. If there is anyone there who is sulking or in a bad mood, he doesn't slow down long enough to notice. Get the point? M people tend to let their S dictate their moods.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!