I too have been thinking for a while about some of what you posted. WAS begin the shut down in most cases months before the bomb. And so do some LBS, I think. And in my case, taking a cold, hard look at myself. I KNEW something was wrong. I KNEW that I no longer felt the same but I said nothing. I KNEW H was no longer doing little things he always did. He was shutting down for aeons and I see that so clearly now.But, so was I in a sense. I was wondering "Is this it? Is this all there is?" WE got boring and I guess we both looked to the other person to "get it" and change. Instead of being the change, I looked for the change.
So much of getting the kind of love you want depends on how much you give to the other person. And after much self examination I can see where I have been selfish in my M and did not give what he wanted to receive. I waited to be given what I wanted.
I think this WAS/LBS thing is so circular. I now truly own my contribution to where I am. I have forgiven H and just as importantly I have forgiven myself.
So, not meaning to hijack your thread but it just got me thinking again.
