"It's not my place to tell you where to go or with whom to go.
Actually it is your place but don't point it out. Just tell her what Coach detailed about it being up to her as to whom she wants to go with or if she's going by herself to honor her friend.
But if you're uncomfortable with your kids being there while she's with the OM, then say that. You are their father after all.
When you were with the OW, did you take them out with her?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.