"She clearly says she would hurt OM if she doesn't go"
She's still going. Why does she have to go with HIM? She mentioned how close she was with the deceased, so she can go herself. Let's call a spade a spade shall we? She wants to go with OM. Period.
How do I confront that? Do I say:
"It's not my place to tell you where to go or with whom to go. I can tell you that I would love to have the kids with me on Saturday."
Does that get the point across about the seperation of where and with whom?
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09