She expects you to be disappointed and upset. How would a strong, confident and honorable man (knight) handle this?
"Mrs RSF, I understand your feelings about wanting to go and support your friend. I also respect the fact you are aware of how this could effect the kids, I appreciate you honoring that boundary. If you feel that strongly about attending because it is the right thing for you to do I will support you in that decision. How can I help you get the kids ready?"
Don't say squat about the OM. Talk about her feelings, supporting her, the kids boundary. That's my .02 worth.
Isn't it likely that she is really worried about OM and not her junior high friend, her deceased husband or their kids? If she were she could go without OM. Does it even matter? I can't believe this stuff causes me such anxiety.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
