Joining the Club

[Lost Rabbit]

Well I have now been separated for four weeks, OH has now got himself some rented accomadation, I found out today and it knocked me for six as he phone message last night sounded a bit fed up and I became hopeful that he would come home again! I am trying to stay out of his life, letting him contact me and keeping busy myself, started looking for a job as I was a stay at home wife for the last few years! Only trouble I have is we have a twenty one year old son and so he finds out what I am doing through him, even though I have asked him to not say anything I really dont want to put him in an awkward position but cant keep much mystery up if son keeps letting the cat out of the bag! Also OH thinks cos he is still paying for the house that entitles him to come in and out of it whether Im here or not, found out he planned to do that after I had told him I was busy tomorrow and couldnt meet up with him, it makes me feel a bit violated (too stronger word really) trouble is I no longer trust him and dont want things going missing or him doing things without me knowing.. we are still sharing a joint bank account as I dont have a job so dont have any financial backing of my own! any advice much appreciated.