We still live together, in fact we still share a bed. Most weekends we do things as a family. During those times I can almost talk to her like a normal person. On other days, she barely says 2 words to me. At least she used to say good night before turning in before me. Not anymore. I have stopped trying to get her to talk after taking advice from this forum. Now, on occasion, she will say something to me about the news, or something. Usually she talks to me only to tell me I am doing sething wrong. It's like she is looking for me to do things wrong. I have tried polite conversation and compliments to no avail. Recently I broke a carnal DB rule and told her I missed her one of the days I was out with my sons. No response. Her birthdAy was last week and I bought her a new car stereo for her truck. She hated the stock one, and wanted one she could plug her iPod into. So I gave it to her and set up a date for it to be installed. Turns out her speakers are blown out, and with the new stereo, you can really hear it. So of course it's my fault that she can't listen to her radio in her car anymore. But here is where I think I am beginning to detach. I told her that It was a shame that the speakers are dead, and that I knew she could pick up a new set pretty inexpensively. My old reaction would have been to go get her truck and bring it to my body shop guy and have him put in new speakers. But I didn't. Small steps, right? For the first time since she agreed to go, she brought up Retrouvaille today. It was just to set up babysitting, but at least I know she is still going. She did bring it up after the speaker conversation, I don't know if there is a connection there. Also, I saw my spiritual director last night and I feel like I am getting back on the right path to trusting God and re-establishing my relationship with Him.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
