Actually her pulling started a couple of months before he left...I often wonder if she saw something or heard something about him and this OW at the time that would have triggered it with her...of course him leaving definitely made it worse...of course he doesnt really think he is the cause of none of it....he doesnt have to deal with it day to day like I have to do. The only other thing I can contribute it to is her starting a new grade that year that she stressed about because she heard it was hard....not really sure why she started though...but i know its just an outlet for stress, although she claims she only does it when she is bored.
Im glad you are dealing well with yours by keeping it short...my daughter actually prefers hers short. She said she doesnt like it touching her neck....its not but several inches long over her head, and funny thing is that it all grew back kinky curly!! We have to straighten it for it to look a little longer so she feels better about wearing it that way to school...kids can be so mean to her about it...luckily she handles it well.
I think she will always just have a really short haircut...which luckily she wears well....she is tall and skinny and looks like a run way model now! lol...she is taller than me!! and still growing up!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
UGH! I just dont know why my H just doesnt "get" it? Grow UP!!! Please!
sorry...had to vent....lol.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
lol....well, I dont remember now! Things he does dont stick with me too long anymore! Which is a good thing I guess!
BUT, I did get a text after church today from him that said "hello beautiful" and then "hey cutie".
Then he showed up at church after the service just to see the kids he said....ok...anyway, still not sure what that was all about.
He did have a friend of his commit suicide last night.....that Im sure has got him down some...thinking about life maybe?? who knows...sad sitch for that family today.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
ok guys....My H has really lost it. BUT thats nothing new I guess!
He has been very quiet today. I did ask him if he was feeling better earlier because when he called the kids yesterday he mentioned he wasnt feeling good...so all he said was "not well".
He was short and not very talkative...not like him. Well, then at 2:30 he shows up to get our son for the evening! ok....first off, he doesnt get them early! It's alway at 5 or later on Tuesdays...2nd, he got off early...took a half a vaca day for some reason. 3rd....he was very lost, depressed looking.
Im concerned, asked him what was wrong...he said Nothing.
Ok, thats a lie right there. He was not his usual self....then he all of a sudden gets in my face and starts putting his hands all over me!! I told him to get his hands off of me and to stop several times...then he went and sat outside!
SOmething is severly wrong! When our son got off the bus, my H just stood there, staring off into space! It was so weird. He was so weird! I have learned from my H that Sex is alot of the time a way of forgetting about his problems and stuff...he is looking for something to make him feel better.
He wont open up and talk to me about it...It must have to do with the ex OW....I can understand him not talking to me about it, he probably doesnt want to bother me with it for fear it will hurt me...Im sure he is still mourning their broken relationship...but he just seemed so lost today...
I really wish he would go back on his meds....
Weird, last night he texted me and asked what my fb status was about???? Ok he is not my friend on there anymore because I took him off, but he still is so caught up with me and what I do that he still looks....
Ugh! sometimes I just cant figure him out! COMMUNICATION???
OH well, no need to sweat over it, right? Just would like some insight about why he gets this way sometimes. Cuz this hot then cold personality he has lately is aggravating me!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Geeeeeeessssss......can you say 'ticking time bomb'? It seems like with these mood and personality shifts he is going to go off like an A-bomb one of these days. I hope you and your kids aren't in the line of fire when it happens.
Why did he go off the meds?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Im not sure why he went off the meds unless he thought they werent doing any good or just thought he didnt need them anymore.
Here's another one for you....I texted him around 3:30 to see if he could get our daughter at 5 from soccer practice....he said he guessed he could, but why? (keep in mind I would only be getting her and driving one mile to take her to him.) I told him I had a truck coming at 5 and needed to stay at the shop and wait for it. He said OK. Well, at 5:02 he drove by my shop and about 2 minutes later he drove back by! THEN he texted me "I didnt see any flower truck". I told him it hadnt come yet. THEN I texted him and asked was he checking up on me or something????? He of course said NO. Then about an hour later he texted and said "I guess your truck came" I then told him yes and that it just left" His reply "OH REALLY".
??????I think he is losing it yall!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Good grief! The man seriously needs to get over it already! He left, he hasn't done any work on himself, he checks up on you, is immature in his responses to your requests....heavens! What a child!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
REally I have to just think he is still just hung up on the exOW. You would think as easy as it was for him to leave me, that he would be over the OW by now...I mean its been a year and she has been married and divorced to another man during that time and is now with my H's brother-in-laws brother!! SO, she is staying close to his family! AND my neighborhood!!!
Last night however, I just sat there thinking how I love my H, but I dont like the man that was introduced to me in December of 2006. He is NOTHING like who I was married to. I find myself not even wanting to be around him at all. I question myself on what to do next.
Its gonna be a glorious day!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I went to my daughters soccer game on Wed night....well, the exOW's new boyfriend was there watching his neice. He is also a neighbor of mine and I have known him for a while. I have also been told in the past that he wanted to go out with me after my H left at one point. Of course this guy has never really approached me about that.
Well, after halftime this guy comes over to sit behind me and talk to me about ordering something from my work for a shriners event that he does every year and to talk about the bus sitch with my kids....so, he sits there the rest of the game....my H comes up when there is about 10 min left of the game and doesnt even walk up to the bleachers....he is more or less hiding at the fence....After a few min i go down and talk to him and ask him to come sit down...he says he had been sitting all day and just would like to stand for a while....ok.
Well, later after the game he texted me and said he just couldnt go up there and sit down. Instead of getting into the whys and all, I just said "i understand". He says that I dont. Ok. I came right out and said that I wouldnt wanna go sit to his ex OW so I DO know somewhat how it is!! He has always seemed to belittle my feelings on how different it is for him to lose the OW over me losing him....irritates me really.
Then he made the comment that another reason he didnt like this guy was because he was also after me at one point!
OK, I just said "oh". THen he said That he guesses I werent denying it....I just said that I really didnt know it...he goes on to say "sure".
Finally I ended the convo saying "does it really matter who is after me though?"
Subject was then changed...by him.
I dont get it. Why is he not liking this guy now...he is a nice man and I actually feel sorry that he is with the OW but in time he will see who she really is....but I mean, its not like this guy stole the OW from my H....Just dont make sense.
Last night my H didnt go to the game, but he talked to my daughter on the phone and more or less did 20 questions with her, he wanted to know who was at the game??? He really wanted to know if the guy and the OW were there.
THis is getting so weird. My H is by no means over this OW. And its been a year. Ugh....no changes being made by him whatsoever!!!!!
Planning a fun filled weekend with my kids!! Not sure what were gonna do, but its starting to feel like fall and I wanna get out of the house!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
