We're chemical animals, and if your brain/c*ck/heart gets a good whiff of new new thing .... old old thing won't be looking so good, *regardless* of all other surrounding context.
You're not confronting all the facts of your current reality if you leave that out of your equation. IMHO.
This is certainly true (sanitized for our protection LOL), but I'm not sure "old old thing" was looking good beforehand. I've actually been nicer and kinder and more tolerant of WAW since chatting with Foreign Female Friend than I was before.
In fact, it was the "oldness" of old old thing that so vexed. The status-quo is dead; I accepted that a long, long time ago. I don't want the status-quo; I won't go back to the status-quo; and that was all pre-FFF and my Florence Nightingale who so aided in my physical recovery (*ahem*).
But you're absolutely right, and I'm trying to stay out of a New Fog. But when I think about WAW, I don't think about "saving" anymore. And I'm not sure that I'd be saving for the right reasons if I did.
In the 3rd or 4th week of all this, WAW "offered" me this deal -- she'd remain open to the possibility that she was wrong ("but I don't really think I am") if I opened myself to the possibility that she wasn't the right person for me. And in my early, neither-of-sound-mind-nor-body way, I agreed.
Well. Buy the ticket; take the ride. I'm not sure she's the right person for me. Doesn't mean FFF is by any stretch of the imagination. But apart from history and children, I don't see what WAW and I have in common at all.
And I'll tell you something else: Thanks to all the trash she's talked and had talked-back, I frickin' despise her friends. And that's no small thing to consider, given how hyper-social she is.
