…We can only be walked on for so long until we have to say you are not worth it....I deserve to be happy with someone else…
How long before we have to move on?
This is pretty contradictory.
D it looks like you are already looking to move on. To directly answer your question, “how long?” That is up to you my man and what you can stand. A 1 in 2 chance? A 1 in 100 chance? A 1 in a Million chance? Ten Million?
When I started this, I simply knew I wasn’t going to fail. My wife and I were that 1.
There is no set time line. It is up to you, what you can do and are capable of. However, if you do set a time line…just quit now. If you say, I’ll do this for a year…you have better things to do in that year, and MLC doesn’t work on your timetable. Let’s face facts though, if anyone here has to convince you to be married…Why? Your internal convictions should set your own course not anyone else.
Your vows, your love, your commitment, your ability…not mine, not Jimbo’s or Mind’s will set your own bar and push it ever higher.
If this is MLC for your wife, your understanding of MLC will certainly help you. It is not logical, nothing about MLC is logical.
Did you make a promise to your wife and yourself? For better or for worse? The better is f-king easy man, if this is MLC…not much is worse.
4 months of DBing, really isn’t a long time, and DBing incorrectly doesn’t really count toward that total. The amount of time is yours to decide, you have to live with the decision and the aftermath.
DBing isn't really about being happy. Its about looking in the mirror and fixing ourselves and patterns as well. You fix those things, and when they come back you have a better chance of not repeating mistakes.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
