When I checked my thread earlier today I somehow missed your post. Sorry about that! I appreciate your input concerning counseling. Not knowing anything about counseling or therapy, I can use all the information that I can get. Thank you.Sooner
Hey Sooner:
I've been following your threads for quite a while. I wish I had something more profound to say tht would help you, but I don't nor am I trained to do so.
In a message to another thread I wrote today that I never thought I'd be using a C. And I assumed my H would never agree. I was wrong on both accounts. I was afraid my H would never open up to the C. I was afraid I would be intimidated and not 'click' with the C. Again wrong on both accounts. I wasn't sure what to expect; I wasn't sure I'd get anything useful from the session. Again, I was wrong.
Now, that said, some people don't click with the first C. If you find that's you, don't feel pressured to continue or it will be a waste of time and money.
Therapy doesn't carry the stigma it did years ago. I don't feel embarrassed or ashamed to tell people I'm talking to a C. To me it's like talking to my best girlfriend, but better. The C is trained to actually help me, not just be a sympathetic ear.
I was afraid my H (a 50+ biker and former trucker) would: 1) Not go, 2)Go but not happily, or 3) Go and remain silent. It never dawned on me that there was a 4th option: to go willingly and participate.
Do we still have a problem? Yep. In fact, I have a letter written up that I want to read to him tomorrow at the C's office. Will it be resolved tomorrow? Doubtful. Do I have hope? Oh, yes. And I have much, much more hope than I did 2 weeks ago.
Get some recs on a C. Does your company provide an Employee Hotline you can call? Some employers do provide this as a benefit. The hotline will triage your issue and provide you with a name of a C near you (at least my company did). It's a starting point.
Much luck to you Sooner. And please let us all know how you make out with find a C.
