Hey, I f*cked you over for 9 months; now that I'm f*cked over, I'm going to start being nice to you again.
Oh, yeah? Not so much. There's no free passes here. To me -- and this hearkens back to Thread #2 or #3, oh-so-long-ago -- this is the fundamental weakness of the DB. I move, I evolve, I 180, I GAL, I change -- she gets to stay the same?
We start off at Point A; her actions send me against my will through Points C, D, E; why am I supposed to assume our paths will rejoin at Point B and we're "back together again"?
Of course this begs the question, "Why assume that she's the same?"
Can't, really. All I can do is observe. And I observe no changes, except perhaps of attitude. She's GAL'd a bit -- her triathletic achievement, for example. But as Schnarch writes, I don't have to believe it until I experience it. So I'm sitting back, waiting to experience the changes. So far -- not so much.
She still hasn't once inquired about my work. Foreign Female Friend in 3 days of visiting and chatting over wine and sturdy Teutonic food has had more involvement in my work than WAW had in 18 years, for cryin' out loud. When WAW and I exchange more than mere social pleasantries, the convo is always about her -- just as it always was -- her this and her that and her t'other. My gods, I have a book manuscript due in 3 months -- EEK! -- and WAW hasn't once inquired about it. In fact I don't think she's even mentioned it in the past 7 months, and the last time she did mention it it was merely to point out that her original plan was to hold off on dropping the D-bomb so as not to interrupt my progress (but not, of course, to hold off on Signore).
So really, the source of my anger is this attitude she's giving off that she's still in the driver's seat.