Going back to your concerns about finding a counselor, one thing that helped us (although this was to help work with our one son) is that one of the universities in our area has a graduate program for marital and family counseling. As part of the program, they have senior grad students work with couples & families under the supervision of the professional faculty (one-way glass and/or video feed). The cost is much less because these are not yet "professionals" yet you can be confident that they are current and, if anything starts to go seriously bad, there is a fully qualified counselor there to offer suggestions or intervene. The video is completely confidential and is only used as a feedback/instructional tool for the student. Our experience was quite good. So, you might check out the Colleges & Universities in your area to see if any have a similar program. Beyond that, the only other long-distance suggestion I could make is that the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy has a Therapist Locator link that you could use to narrow the field. I hope things work out!
HERE is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin...sometimes he feels that there really is another way [of coming downstairs], if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.
