Wednsday nite, tried to talk to my H about a huge bill that came in that we needed to take care of right away. He did not call me back for a long time and when he finally did, he was drunk. Had gone out with the guys on the crew.
I have no problem with this any other time but it really upset me that he could not have returned the call right when he got off of work, took care of it with me, and then went and did his thing with the guys.
Anyway, he ended up getting upset with me because I was upset with him and he went into a long drawn out tirad about how I don't trust him and that I think that he was doing something wrong with an OW. Saying that I had accused him of it. I had not at all. I asked him if he was feeling guily about something that he had done that night. I also asked him how many beers he had drank. He said 3. Now the MC told us both that he did not want us to drink anymore than 3 drinks if we drank at all. I am not a drinker so this was easy for me. But I could tell he was drunk. He kept saying that he had not drank no more than 3 drinks. I finally figured it out so I asked him how big the drinks were. They were 36 ounce beers, which ment that he had actually had 9 beers in all.I still think he wasn't telling the full truth cuz he was drunk. I felt like he had lied to me about something so simple. He said that he had told me the truth but that I had not asked the question the right way the first time. GRRRRR!!!!
Either way, the convo went pretty bad so I just hung up on him and refused to take any more of his calls. The next morning he called me around 5 in the morning, (I am on call 24/7 with my job so I did not look when I answered). He was saying something about me not letting him be a part of this family and always pushing him away. I hung up.
Fast forward, and yesterday, I start getting text messages from him, saying stuff like what does he need to do so that I can let this go and never bring it up again and that he loves me and wants to make our M work. I did not feel like talking about our R while I was busy at work so I just texted back that I was busy. He says well think about it. I say fine.
About an hour later, he starts texting that he misses me, and starts telling me what he misses (all sexual) and tells me that he hasn't been able to think about anythign else all day, that he has a deal for me that includes him getting to have lots of sex when he get home. I fell for it and asked what the hell did I get out of a deal like that. Answer from him: My cock in your face and you taking it all. I told him that I did not want to deal. He keeps it up and I finlly get mad and text him that he is so wrong and that I was at the doctor's office and was not going to text him anymore. I shut my phone off.
When appointment was done, I turned phone back on and a text had come through that said let him know when I was done there. I text done to him. He wanted to know what was going on, I told him sh*t. (my exact word) He called and wanted to know what was happening, I told him that I had two choices to try and fix what my problem was and that neither was very good. He said he was sorry and wished that he could make things better. Thanks I said, then he asked if I was willing to take the deal he had ofered. I said no and hung up.
Is there a good ending to this, I really don't think so. I see a D still in our future.
STILL GETTING NOWHERE FAST!!!!!!
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
