I have been following your thread for a very long time now and I see a lot of similar things with my W. What I have find that has helped a little is when talking about your sex life do it when there is nothing expected. That way there is no pressure. I found with me that I am wanting to make love so bad if I try and talk to her about it after she has rejected me then it will blow up into a fight.
I do understand from where you are coming from becuase I have had a lot of the same thoughts as you. That if this doesn't change then maybe a D is the way to go. Just remeber when you do have this conversation have a pre thought out plan of what you want to talk about that way you dont get side tracked.
