I think the acts of service should stop, or at least minimized greatly, and only done at YOUR convenience. She is saying she wants to D you, so move on, show her you are fine without her, and that you're not available to her anymore, except at your convenience. Doesn't mean you can't leave the door open, but she has left you behind, so do the same. Don't bother confronting her about the EA, she'll just argue with you about it, adding to her negativity. SHE needs to realize she's made a mistake and come back to YOU. Nothing you say can convince her, but you can consistently show her she's making a mistake.
Sounds like you've done a pretty good job GALing, but you still haven't detached. I know how hard it is, I haven't 100% detached myself yet, although I keep trying. Sometimes I wonder if it's even possible to 100% detach from the mother of our young children. Definitely stop reading her journal, it just keeps you in turmoil. Let her go, live your life, be someone she'd be a fool to walk away from. I know my W would LOVE if she could just walk away from me and our M without a second thought, but I keep reminding her she's making a mistake, not with words, but by my actions and demeanor, and it's driving her CRAZY. You'd think she'd want to stay away from me so she can get peace and just move on with her life with OM, but she keeps seeking me out, keeps asking me to do things, keeps asking my advice about her finances and business. That tells me she is still conflicted, still hasn't closed the door on our M, and certainly isn't committed to OM.
As someone else told you, this is a marathon, not a sprint, so don't read into her reaction of anything at the time. The great thing about detaching and moving on is that it's the best thing to make her doubt her decision, AND it's the best thing for you, regardless of how this all turns out!
