While eating I tell her that I am planning on cutting her cell phone and transfering our joint account into one that is only in my name. W: "This feels wierd." M: "Yes. It brings a sense of completeness." We both stand there awkwardly. Both wanting to say more; but not.
Good move.
You think so? I feel that we are moving in opposite directions so fast now. Sometimes I wonder if I am approaching this right.
Another thing that scares me is how fast I seem to be accepting it. Is she detaching as quickly as I am? I know I will have my down days, but sometimes I think "This won't be as hard as I originally thought." But then I think of all the implications financially and especially the impact on the children and think this isn't just about emotions; there is a lot of other things at stake here.
We all go through this. You could do what I did and martyr yourself, torture yourself thinking about the nightmare that divorce will be and how it will destroy your lives...at least for me, it just led to my H having all of the control and messing with me more, my kids suffering and me ending up near suicidal.
I suggest you get your sh*t together sooner than later. You can love someone and want a different outcome without devolving into depression and agonizing over it. It is part of growing up and leading.
