Another Waw

[Refuse to quit]

I have been battling this for quite a while. I guess hoping that it was not true. I know I would get condemmed by many here if they knew what I did. Since the W has left I am still getting the phone bills etc. I have known since days after she left that she has been contacting an old male friend on a pretty regular basis. It started out as phone calls and I think she got wise and knew I could see the phone bills and moved to using e-mail, texting, and instant messaging to contact this guy. I have not done it in a long time, but I checked her e-mail yesterday. Because I did not see it on her phone bill I had hoped it had ended. When in her e-mail yesterday I could see that there is a lot more going on. To the extent that she has even set up a folder in her e-mail for their correspondence. I got out of it when he sent me an instant message on her account. I guess what I am trying to say is that I think my W is having an EA. I wish I knew better the definition of what one exactly is but from what I have seen I believe it is there. Not sure where to go from here. Not sure if I should confront her on this or what. The guy lives two states away so I don't see how it could turn physical any time soon. But to me there is a very fine line between the two with little difference. I guess what I have come to the conclusion of is that I feel like I need to go in there again and print the correspondence off and have my two closest friends look at it and tell me what they think. They have been my closest support group throughout all of this and I know I am a biased opinion at this point in my life. I don't fault her for going somewhere else. Sure it breaks my heart and I wish she was not doing it. But I know it is wrong and it needs to stop. Especially while we are still married. Just not sure if she should be or how she should be confronted on this. Also not really sure exactly what an EA consists of. Would love the advice.
RTQ