Thought I'd introduce myself, up until May 09 I had been married for 23 years and been with OH for nearly 30 years, after mentioning that we ought to be putting more effort into our relationship as we had got a bit lazy he announced he didnt love me anymore and he needed to think about things.. I spent two and half months in utter misery waiting for his answer but he decided he wanted out, I begged and begged and we went to counselling, at this point I hadnt found this book or the couple others I have since read on the subject and I so wish I had.. So now on antidepressants as I knew me losing it would make things worse we went to see the councellor, worst mistake of my life, in her wisdom she tried to persuade him that working at it would be better and how about a trial seperation, OH grabbed it with both hands and we agreed for a two week one which he went to stay with his brother.. he returned and said he didnt want to come back so went for another week by now I had the book and was working my socks of to read it and follow through although now with several hundereds of miles between not an easy task.. last night I got a bit excited about a phone message, but today I caught up with him and he said he had rented a flat down there.. Im not seeing him this weekend although he is meeting up with our grown up son.. When I said I didnt think he would ever come back he said he couldnt see that happening so in parting I said I expect we will be in divorce proceedings by xmas, his reply was xmas is a long way away! I cant cope with all the mixed messages, I still love this man so much and just dont know what to do? Any advice would be most welcome!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
