Separated 4 Months - Looking for Advice??

[neversaydie63]

Hey everyone,

Thank you for your comments.

Its hard not to call her but over the last week, I have really stopped unless I need to. Unfortunatly she does do some web and literature work for my company and we are working on a few projects right now so sometimes I do have to call her for work. Other than that, I let her call me.

I stopped telling her I love her about 6 weeks ago so I am good there (in fact it feels better because she rarely responded back to me in a positive way and that hurt so it just feels better to not put myself out there like that.

I do have a life of my own and have been hanging out with friends, riding my bike, working on my cars and of course traveling for work. Trying to do more of that.

One thing I have noticed in the last few weeks is that I have been much less informative as to where I am going or what I am doing and she has become much more inquisitive. For example, last week when I was traveling we played a little phone tag and in one message I mentioned that I was going to be "going out with friends" and that I would call her the next day. When we finally did talk, she seemed upset that I did not tell her who they were and I mentioned that they were friends from High School and that she did not know them and then she went off about how I always "give her the 3rd degree" about who she is going out with and where she is going and that how I need to tell her "who" I am going out with and not just say "some friends" ?? --- However, she seems to have a double standard here because she is not very upfront with me about her comings and goings and lately (over the last few weeks) I have really stopped asking unless she asks me first. Maybe I should stop asking all together?? I dont know, it just seems to flow out when your wife asks you "what did you do last night?" I answer and then ask "how about you, what did you do?"

Tonight we are going out (she asked me) starting with a massage and then dinner and tomorrow we are going to a wedding together which starts at 4:00 so we will be there all night I am sure so wish me luck.

Any pointers I should know or anyone can offer? Should I seek out and dance with other women at the wedding?

Next week I am out of town on a business trip until thursday.

Thanks for everyones help.

NSD